Every day and night, and even late at nights (like 3am), whenever I got a chance to be alone, I will be blogging, reading blogs or commenting on someone’s blogs. There is a certain connection you have with other bloggers after a while. Sort of like a relationship.
Most times, no one peer over my shoulder to see what I am typing because my kids had been trained not to peek over one’s shoulder. Bad manners, shoo, shoo! My atm either does not care or is a very understanding atm who gives me my creative cyberspace. (gosh, I dunno! He knows my URL but whether he reads my blog, is a mystery.) However, Chee does see. Chee sees every IM messages, email, forum blogging I type. He faithfully stays by my Windows. But I am glad he doesn’t tell my other half a single thing I type. He can’t. He is only a cicak (lizard). Say hi to CheeChak, everyone. It has stayed on my computer for several weeks liao. Growing bigger now. When it is big enough, I am going to either make sashimi, sushi, crispy fried cicak, kungpou or sambal tumis cicak.
Back to my main topic – lately, I observed that many bloggers who are married are slowly revealing their blogs to their spouse. Some tried to keep it a secret but I suppose after a while, a blog became so much part of one’s life. One cannot hide it totally. Because:
1) If the blog is a hit, one feels proud and want to share the ‘achievement’ with the spouse;
2) One fears accidentally leaking out the secret in the most awkward situation – googling brings up everything. All you married women – go type your other half’s name and google! Quick!
Personally, I will have a clearer conscience if everyone I know, knows about my blog. It keeps me rooted. I do not know if in my last 185 postings, I had said anything I shouldn’t said about my atm (i.e. my husband) or my siblings and relatives (ok lah, every woman must gripe about out-laws at one time or another la, kasi chan la). Even if I do, I am ready to face the wrath if they misunderstood. I am willing to apologise even if what I wrote are just mere thoughts.
So, that brings me to the conclusion that spouses shouldn’t hide their blogs. Wives, be understanding. Husbands, be transparent. (eh, eh, like St Paul pulak) And to those couples, I salute and admire you all. Mr. & Mrs. Buaya, Papi&Mami, Angie&Bart are a only a few couple blogs I can think off right now. I believe blogging has brought these couples closer together.
Dr. Liew’s thoughts inspired me to write this. Thank you, duli yang maha kembang. You are very wise.