The news in the paper about a group of school boys given a crew cut has made me ponder long and hard.
First, I try to put myself as one of the parents. My sons are about that age too. So it is not hard to imagine. How would I feel?
– This will be a time when the trust between a parent and child comes in. Would I believe my son or would I believe what I want to believe? Will I take a hard swipe at the police, school and everyone, except my son? Will I stand on my son’s side even if he is one of the culprit? Will I spin some tales to make sure that my son did not spoil my reputation? Arggghhh…I feel a failure because I really do not know what to do. I am the kind of parent who has strong principles and I believe it will mean being an unkind parent. I will not protect my own son if I know he is wrong. I will probably be the first to punch my son if he gets into trouble. Only God knows how I will react if I see my son’s face on the paper, displayed like a criminal.
So, the only consolation I have is to make sure that the line of communication between my teenage kids are kept open all the time. Parenting teenagers is really hard work.
MAD WITH THE MEDIA
NOW, I AM REALLY MAD with the media. Please, what are you guys trying to do? Whose side are you on? Why do you have to add pepper and salt to the issue? Why can’t your reporters and photographers spare these kids? Why do you have to make it like the police, discipline master, headmaster, school, parents and kids act like they are all liars? Can’t your reporter get the facts straight before writing? Is it necessary to stir up the public’s emotions?
The reason I am mad is because these poor kids, whether innocent or otherwise, are on papers, looking like criminals. How do you think they feel? What do you think they will do in future? Can’t the photographer take a back view of them because bald heads look good from the back? If I am one of the boys, I would either do:
Choice A : Be very embarassed and turned into a recluse. Keeping away from everyone. Be a school drop-out.
Choice B : Live up to the notorious reputation, be a real gangster someday.
Is this what we want to happen to these kids? HECK, NO!!! We are imposing enough hurts. Spare them the embarrassment. Don’t use them to sell more newspapers.
I am real angry because I notice that the papers are always protecting the faces of some celebrities, politicians, businessmen, Datuks, Tan Sri’s sons etc even when it is proven that they had killed, raped, molest, khalwated, road rage-d (?), CBT etc. Yet, the papers have no problem plastering innocent, weak people faces on their front page. I find this disgusting.
Not long ago, the woman who was accused of abusing her Indon maid was on the front page before she was found guilty. Few days later, another man (presumbably someone richer and more well-known) who was proven guilty of raping his Indon maid was hidden from the paper. Why the double standard?
I am going to email this link to the Editor of The Star. So, people, please read the news, look at the faces of the boys and share your opinions. Do you think they deserved to be punish this way? Whom do we punish? The media, of course!