Let’s hear from the opinions from you good people out there. This matter has been bothering me for a while. I feel violated. And I suppose that feeling is not likely to go away unless I vented it.
We women sometimes have a lot of things to write to each other, whether on email or IM. When you trusted a person, you will likely share some things that can be rather personal. Hey, on PMS days everyone seems to be wrong and I am right and therefore, I have my rights to curse till the
cow aunty/taiyeemah comes home, right? And not everyone has the privilege to know some of these things unless I trusted the person.
And it comes to pass that one day, this person I trusted had her mail boxes and IM messages histories read by the spouse. Why la this stupid gmail gave 1GB diskspace? All the Hari Ini Dalam Sejarah were in there. All the male bashing etc.
A big row ensued between them because of this and I stand by this person, telling her to calm down, don’t give up on her involvement on the internet (in some community thingy). OKOK, the spouse is not only, not happy with me but rather with many other things that I do not wish to know.
A few weeks passed and now, if I wish to write to this person (even on official work matters), I am asked to use a different route. How humilating can this be? Will you feel like a criminal in an illegal matters?
My big question is – Is it right for one’s spouse/partner to gain access to the passwords and read the mails/IMs? I know that I will not even do this to my own kids. Because I trust them to know what they are doing. As for if I am likely to do so to my own spouse – I probably will do it only when I have a devilsh plan to get a big, huge, gigantic alimony and a chance to re-marry a future king when I am 57yrs old and looked like a errrr…errrrmmm…whatever la.
Do I need to add that though I do not like to boast, I did help this person a lot in many ways. One of my strong point is my ability to motivate a person when they are depressed and provide my unconditional support. Of course, if the person screwed it up, then nothing can mend the relationship.
Tell me? Will you feel so very the violated?