This is the scenario. Chap is 15 years old, very independent, groomed to look after the house and younger siblings when needed to, taught the value of money, did not spend much on clothes, free music from the internet, not keen to get an iPod as birthday present even when we offered.
They (kids) have their angpow money in the safe. Only eldest and atm know how to open the safe. (robbers will kill me if they come) As you all know, teenagers aren’t speaking in the same wavelength as parents. He did say about getting a handphone and we go yeah, yeah, yeah. So, he probably took the yeah, yeah, yeah as ‘go ahead’.
We did give him one when he was younger but he lost it at the internet cafe (before we have broadband we did allow him to go). Actually, I prefer him to have a handphone because I feel ‘safer’ knowing I can nag him anytime I want. But he had decided not to get one after that because the school did not allow handphone (it will be confiscated).
So, when he camed back one day with a RM400 Nokia, we did these:
1) Lectured and showed disappointed face.
and after the initial cool down,
2) Father said he could have bought it cheaper from his vendor.
3) Mother said, “Cis, you should have told me earlier, then I give you my SE630 and I get to buy a new one. Here, enter your number for me. Then I can sms you to buy laksa and pohpiah whenever I want.”
The adult in me screamed : You should whack the daylight out of him.
The teenager in me shushed : It is time they start stepping out on their own, making mistakes and learning from it. You never set a money value limit to things for him. If he bought a RM40 thing, you wouldn’t have bothered right?
So, did I do right or wrong?