I blogged about this on the spur of the moment because I found someone else blogged about his brother’s death. I disabled the comment because I feel bad bringing a morbid topic to PPS. However, these are facts we have to face because it is very much part of our lives.
On a silly note, let state some of my thoughts here:
1) Will I re-marry if I am widowed?
Of course, why not? Especially if the man is tall, dark and handsome and loaded with cash to sponsor my sons through colleges and universities. I don’t care if he is impotent, as long as he is rich. All I care for is the welfare of my sons. Probably I will sign an agreement for a sum of money and in return, I promise to be the good wife, fook si him 99 (pamper to the 9th).
2) Will I allow my husband to re-marry if I kick the bucket?
Of course, NO! But then, I can’t control that. So, I must make a mental note not to turn into a ghost and visit the master bedroom at nights. Don’t want to be a ghost and caught my atm with another wife in bed, do I? Then, I have to strangle the kkc with my ghostly hands. LOL!
3) Do I worry about my kids if I can’t be around to take care of them?
Not anymore. Maybe when I was younger and they were smaller. Right now, I know they can grow up pretty ok without me. After all, I got many siblings and in-laws. And yes, God will have to be the babysitter. Many kids grew up without a parent and they still turn out ok. Like me.
4) Do I worry if I can cope without a bread-winner?
Not anymore too. Because my house and car no longer belongs to the bank. We have enough to eat. No money for further education, no problem wan. Anyway, my atm is a sensible man. He increase his life insurance with the birth of each child.
5) What is the ideal way to kick the bucket?
For my atm – in an airplane crash, especially if he bought the ticket with his credit card. Woohoo, I will be very rich. Mamamia!
For me – No leh, I don’t think I want to kick the bucket at the moment. Sakit kaki, hurt the big toe only. And I am not a major loss, so no point disappear from earth.
On a serious note –
It is good for couples, especially wives who are not earning any income to know what to do in case of situations like this. At the back of your mind, know what are your assets, what belongs to the bank, how much savings you have, are you the rightful owner of all the money/assets, are the EPF, insurance, properties in your name?
Take for e.g. the EPF beneficiary of my atm is me. Because I need the money asap. If he put my children’s names, they can only get them when they reach 18 yrs old. So, we need to eat sands if that happen. But *muahahaha* my EPF and insurance beneficiaries are my kids. Yeah, I got a tidy sum in EPF orh. But I make sure my atm is not able to get those money for his kenduri kahwin bini muda. HOHOHO.
So, I am pretty prepared for rainy days. In wicked humour and also sensible thoughts. How about you?
My message to MG – When I wrote that the other day, I did think of you. I know you must be worried sick about your situation But trust me, vocalise your fears to Mr MG, talk to your loved ones about your worries and hopefully soon, you can laugh over them. My sis once had a lump in her breast and she worried like the world is caving in. It turned out to be just a harmless lump. But after that, she was much more prepared and braver. She also have 4 kids and not earning any income.