*To divorced couples, please do not read between the lines in what I am saying or going to say. This is merely my own thoughts and views. I am sick of strangers popping out of nowhere to flame blindly.*
Mr Kiasu quoted somewhere that marriage has a 50%-50% chance of breaking/being successful.
I don’t think I can agree on this. One has to be absolutely, 100% sure that one is ready to commit their whole life to the other person.
As far as I am concerned, one thing that holds a marriage is discipline. Kids also play a very important part.
When I got married, religion did not feature highly in my marriage and hence, I only see the legal side of things. I see marriage as an agreement that I have to stick to, like a gentleman honouring his words.
Later on, it is about commitment as an adult to see that the kids have a happy home to grow up in. And now, I see marriage as something sacred.
I probably place my own happiness second to many things. So did my atm. One can’t expect a marriage to have only good things. But with lots of discipline, some sacrifices, a bit of disappointments, change of expectations and etc etc, it will hold.
Must a couple stay together even if they are unhappy? Tough question. I suppose there are only two good reason for going separate ways – abusive spouse or infidelity. However, as Catholics, we are expected to try to work through these. I pray that I won’t have to face them at all because I don’t think I can tolerate these no matter how strong my faith is.
So, what holds your marriage? And please keep the comments coming so that I can think what to write in Part Two, if any. I have seen many marriages breaking up, including those of my children’s godparents.
*Blog this at 3.30 am ‘cos atm is watching Liverpool vs. Chelsea. Yawnnnn….*