I was reading a book. My #2 son came by and started spelling w.o.m.a.n. h.i.t.l.e.r. I asked him what he is mumbling about.
He pointed to the word Mother-In-Law and told me that if we shuffle the alphabets, we get woman h.i.t.l.e.r. Kid has been surfing too much and get too smart for his own good. This is the anagram, like the one mentioned in The Da Vinci Code.
I had been reading the book, Mother-In-Law, Daughter-In-Law, which is a gift from the author, Warren Lau. It is even autographed by him. Thank you!
I meant to write a complete review when I finished the book but since the woman hitler term came up, I am now looking at mother-in-law in a new light!
Anyway, it is a coincident that on the same day I got the book, I met up with another lady from KL who is part of my parenting group. She had the book and had read them.
This reminds me of my role. Though my mother-in-law passed away a few years ago, I ought to read Warren’s book and absorb everything. I found comfort in it that I have erred in some ways but I had also done something right towards the end before her death.
Being the owner/administrator and leader of a parenting support group with almost 800 members, I hope I can pass on some of the wisdom I gained from the book. Mother-in-law is one of the hot issue in our forum discussion. However, I am a dictator in the forum and do not allow anyone to mudsling their own mother-in-law. In fact, I had banned one member from the forum due to this. Sue me, but I don’t care. My reasoning is if I allow one woman to talk bad about her own MIL, the whole world is going to follow suit. (including me) And my parenting forum is going to end up as MIL problems support group. Hahahaha!
I shall elaborate more about the book, my relationship with my own woman hitl…I mean mother-in-law and tell you who Warren Lau is in another posting.
Or if you know who is he, just leave his blog URL in the comment board. This book is a must-have for all women and caught-in-between husbands. Especially women who are getting married. You should be prepared on what to expect. And to those women with mother-in-laws, it is a life-saver. Trust me, I know.
However, reading the book alone is not going to solve your problems. Daughter-in-laws should put themselves in their MILs’ shoes. Question is – are DILS ready to do that? Or are they going to continue holding grudges against each other?
*sigh* Mother-in-law or woman hitler – Hate them or love them, you have to live with them.