I am going to write this but how you are going to perceive it, is not my responsibility, ok? Whatever, I hope whoever reads it do get enlightened.
This has nothing to do with me. My personal life is not on parade here, ok?
Long time ago, I had a girl friend. She boasted about her past, how working in the hotel line has it perks, this guy, that guy yadda yadda yadda. Spending the night here, night there. But oooh…she would emphasised again and again that she is oh so virginal. Who cares…
She was much older than me and lucky gal hooked a rich, only son, lots of properties guy who is much younger than her. *sheesh* Like Rod Stewart’s song, Some guys have all the luck.
Guess what she told me during lunch after her wedding? I almost choked to death on the cockles from my char-koay-teow.
“I had UTI (urinary tract infection) the other day and the stupid nurse insisted to do a swab for me (insert something to take specimen from her ‘inside’). It was sooooo painful, you know. And XYZ (her young hubby) hadn’t even got a ‘chance’.”
And I put on my dumb face mask and ask, “You mean, you married that day until now, you still not yet do ‘it’ ah? You still virgin la?”
I felt like strangling her with the kuchai (chives, a tough stringy vege) from the char koay teow. I mean, that XYZ guy is really a nice chap, very young and very innocent.
Certainly, you can lie to him. But don’t ever try to lie to me. I may be younger than her but I am not born yesterday, for V’s sake! I am not interested to know.
I met her a few weeks ago and that episode can never leave my mind. I think it is actually a non-issue if the ‘damaged’ has been done. But to lie to one’s future spouse, that is very, very wrong. If you can’t start a matrimony based on honesty, I don’t know if you should even think of getting married.
Ahem, I must put disclaimer. Virginity is very important. And so is truth, honesty, sincerity, true love, forgiveness and a tonnes of other things that will make a couple’s marriage work and live happily ever after.