I wrote something about this last night but decided to delete it. I think this is not healthy. I am censoring my thoughts because I don’t want to make one or two persons feel slighted, just in case they found me writing about them.
But heck, I hope there is some moral of the story to other people. This is not being judgemental but rather, digging deep into our mind.
Case 1 – Wennie (not her real name of course!)
She is soft-spoken with a heart of gold. Not drop dead gorgeous but ok lah. She is friendly (but not ‘hiao’) so finding a life partner is not that hard. But she fell in love with one Bukit Aman guy who cheated off her life savings when she was only 20+. It doesn’t matter to her because she said he was a nice man. After that, she had an affair with her married colleague, holding out for him. At the same time, she has this rich, divorced, gynae boyfriend from Singapore. So, two part-time lovers at the same time. Now, she is not your regular sex-siren kinda SPG type of girl. She is just your typical, clerk-colleague.
She doesn’t need the guys for their money. She feels that they need her because :
Guy 1 – claimed his wife is unloving
Guy 2 – claimed that he has no time for another committment
So, there she is in a limbo, waiting for their calls, waiting for their summons and practically, have no life of her own. She is older than me and is still waiting for one of them to make a commitment. (fat chance!)
Why is she so needy? Getting into relationships not suitable for her and yet expecting something to happen, which nevers. And most of the times, eventhough she did not show it, she is ashamed of the relationships, especially with the married colleague. As for the gynae, she had to fit into his doctor’s schedule and that means shuttling KL-Spore on flights at his fancy.
I can’t explain why women would do this. But I know two more women in relationships like these. Depending on men to provide them the ‘complete satisfaction’ feelings. I am not referring to the sexual type but the self-worth one.