misyar marriage, a matrimonial pact where the man need not give his wife any material support “ like money or clothing “ except provide for her sexual needs.
- a suggestion by Universiti Malaya lecturer Prof Datuk Dr Mahmud Zuhdi Abdul Majid to recognise such marriages in Malaysia in view of the increasing number of unmarried women in the country.
- Kelantan Mentri Besar Datuk Nik Aziz Nik Mat, who supported the idea, said such a marriage was allowed in Islam on the condition that consent is obtained from the woman who is willing to enter into this matrimonial pact.
- those who supported the idea were Assoc Prof Kamil Abdul Majid, head of the academyâ€™s dakwah department and Maimunah Omar, chairman of the Terengganu Single Mothersâ€™ Association.
The above are taken from The Star. I don’t think I am in the position to refute this or make fun of it as it is said;
such a marriage was allowed in Islam
Well, I do know a few elderly Muslim women who did allow their husbands to take a second wife. For Chineses, last time, during our grandpas time, polygamy is considered a status symbol. If the wife can’t bear him sons, she may allow him to get another production line. There are many graves here that have three ‘holes’, i.e. the man and his two wives. So, I shall not argue or debate about this publicly.
However……..I do wonder if women can live without sex? I mean, if they had chosen not to be married, would they turn to vice just for sexual release? What is vice here? Zina? I.e. married couples who have sex with other people. Or are they talking about unmarried women who turned to prostitution for sexual release? Well, I don’t know, you tell me. Because, I believe a woman is more into love, care, attention than sex. She wants another woman’s husband because she wants the attention, care, love and the whole package.
What I wish now is to have Dr. M and his sharp tongue. I know he would shoot this proposal down. In the first place, I don’t think those goons would even dare to think and say it loud. I admire that man, I really do. No one stood up for women like Dr. M. Pak Lah, please do something lah!
Read this article by a Muslim woman on Islamonline.Â And further explanation on misyar marriage:
Misyar is described as a form of marriage in which the wife gives up her rights offered under the religion, including the right to have the husband living with her in the same house and providing her with necessary expenses. In short the woman gives up the right to have an independent home. The husband may come to see her at her parentâ€™s home at whatever time he chooses for himself, or at a time agreed by the two.
Wow, what does that make of the children from these marriages?Â I just had to say this, ‘Think with your head, the one with the brain.Â In trying to counter vice, you are asking the nation to approve a law that allows a man to father childrenÂ all over without having to bear any financial responsibilities? Hellooo…..the Arabs women maybe filthy rich ‘cos their parents have oil wells.Â Think?Â We are in Malaysia lah!”