I phoned my sister-in-law in PJ and apparently, the situation in Bangkok is so calm, my brother wasn’t even aware of the coup when he woke up to go to work this morning.Â Hahaha.Â He only sees a lot of tanks around the US Embassy.Â So, noÂ looting, burning or anything like that.Â Thank God.
So, which brings me to this curiousity what people calls their abang and kakak, older siblings.Â This brother of mine is 12 years older than me.Â Yeah, we have two dragons in my home.Â I had been calling my two eldest sisters and brothers by their names since I was small. Â My father has this ‘English’ style of upbringing, I suppose.
I call my eldest sister-in-law, ‘Ah Soh’ (name for older sis-in-law) and my 2nd sis-in-law by her name.Â I call eldest bro-in-law (my sis’s hubby) with a ‘ko’ (older brother) but my 2nd bro-in-law by his surname.
So, it is a rather weird to marry into a family where I have to acknowledge my out-lawsÂ 😛 by their titles, likeÂ tua ko, jee ko, tua chee, jee chee (bro #1, bro #2, sis #1, sis#2)Â It is so stiffling for me!Â But wutodooooo…have to follow my hubby’s style mah.
Ok, for my own kids, they do call the eldest his name with a ko when they were small.Â Like my toddler and #3 son, they call the eldest, oi, japro (hehehe, not very official but it means Jeff Ko).Â Meanwhile, the 2nd son call the eldest, “Hey, man… (pronounce as marn) or Dude…”Â Gee, I don’t know why but that’s how they addressÂ each other.Â Â There is none of the official, traditional, well-mannered way of addressing older siblings for me.
Of course, though there is no hierarchy in the way of addressing them, I expect the young ones to respect the older ones to a certain extend.
So, what’s the normal practice in your home? Â Â Â Malay families have more or less a standard name like Abang Long, Abang Ngah etc.Â Heck, do you get the same kind of cultural shock married to a family with different styles like me?Â Usually, those ‘tua mm (tai sam/big sis-in-law), tua chee hoo (tai cheh foo/big bro-in-law) names stucked to my throat when I need to address them.Â I am so uncouth, ill mannered and I’m lovin’ it!