These past weeks, I had been observing the youngs and the olds. The parents and the teenagers. When one is a blogger like me, we tend to notice things that we normally will have not given second thoughts. Sitting there quietly and watch how others parents and children interact, I cooked up blog posts after blog posts in my mind.
I would say that I don’t have a problem with this annoying communication breakdown factor between parent and child called generation gap because……my mom was a very cincai (easy going) mom and I was a very independent kid who wouldn’t take no for an answer. And I didn’t do too badly either, right? I was the school head prefect, got myself a job right after SPM, married a nice man and have kids. Just like what every Mary, Jane and Lulu does.
However, I notice how some parents can be so damn suffocating in the way they talked to their kids. Like dictating what clothes they wear. What music to listen to. Yadda yadda yadda. Blah blah blah. You know…the parents and the children are like from two different worlds? There was one who told me she was having fights with the son because …well, I didn’t ask why, of course. I mean, the son is like 30 years old, dude!
So, I took a closer look at some of the elderly women and I notice that some of them are so cool in their outlook and some are those you just want to stay away from. They don’t tell you right in the face what you should do or say. They get excited listening to things foreign to them. They ask questions. When I say elderly, I mean women who are old enough to be my mother, that kinda age. These women exude vitality and exuberance.
My conclusion is generation gaps shouldn’t exist if the parents will stop stagnating in their ‘When I was your age’ limbo and start to grow young again with the kids as they grow up. Auntie S and Kat (waves to Kat from my church) are two of such women whom I want to emulate. One is in her 80s and one in her 60s. Yet, they are women who enjoy live and have lots of things to talk.
This is in contrast to some of the younger moms with teenagers who are always dictating to their children what to do and the worst is they don’t stop there. They will even tell the people around them how to bring up others’ kids. Duh.
So, are you the parent? What’s your take? Whose fault is it?
And if you are the kid, psssttt…it is your parent’s fault, right?