Gong Xi Fa Cai! Happy Chinese New Year. Keong Hee Huat Chai. Kung Hei Fatt Choy. Selamat Tahun Baru Cina.

Heh. Are these wishes sufficient?

Well folks, while you are all enjoying your reunion, remember those who don’t have the privilege. Those old parents forgotten by their children. Those widows/widowers who are still mourning and not celebrating. Those little children from poor families who can’t afford new year clothes. Those estranged from their family members. Those assigned far away from home due to work. Anyone else you can think of.

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Reunion is usually a very happy occasion. However, how often have we bitched about how we detest meeting up with the in-laws, the boastful siblings, the annoying and meddling sisters-in-laws, the inquisitive grandmas, the confrontational uncles and aunties (insert your nemesis names here). It can be a big bore as well.

Yet, reunion is the very core of family togetherness. The Chinese must continue with this practice if we are going to survive as the most steely race in the world. Hehehe, yayaya, I sound so sombre on a happy occasion like this. But I do feel somewhat sombre.

Because Chinese New Year is the time when we remember our dear departed ones. Like my parents and my son. My mother-in-law who adored me because I carried on her tradition of having her daughters and all their extended families to return to greet her and my father-in-law. I took up her tasks of cooking and hosting the gatherings when she was too old and frail to do it.

I did my duty well. One year, she bought me a pajamas and a gold bracelet. Coming from a traditional Chinese woman who didn’t talk much nor have any income or properties (her house was razed to the ground many years ago), it was a great honour for me. Her youngest daughter-in-law. (whom errrm…weren’t the best dil in the world hehehe)

One year, when she was affected by stroke and recuperated at a hospital near by, we brought her to my house in a wheel chair so that she could have her one last Chinese New Year gathering. The following year, she was still around but was already in coma.

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So, if you tell me Chinese New Year, I will tell you, urgggh…not again? So soon? And I am sure out there, many of you are celebrating but sometimes, you have the heavy heart and choking feelings, missing your parents whom had passed on or your grandparents who recently passed away. To you, I want you to know that I can feel the same thing. *cyber hugs* To my grand nephew-in-law (I hope you are reading this?), I want you to know that I will remember your family as you missed your sister. (she died in a suicide in UPM just before Chinese New Year three years ago)

My mom died suddenly and the first year when my siblings were without her, we felt her absence greatly during Chinese New Year. I flew to Australia to escape. But one night, I dreamt I was eating her kiam chye ark (salted vege duck soup). So, when I returned from OZ, I decided that I am going to carry on her tradition. Come rain or shine.

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So….when I get back from KL, like 2nd day of Chinese New Year (Monday), I am going to the wet market and get everything to cook a storm. Yes, siree, I will. And I am going to get all my in-laws (whether I enjoy some of their companies very much or not, it is not relevant hehehe) to come and eat.

Therefore, darlings sekalian, as you are eating those big meals tonight, give a thought for all those whom may not be able to celebrate, say a little prayer for them and makan lah! Enjoy! Who wanna puak kuay with me? Mahjong? 21? Black jack? Gin rummy? See rummy? Anyone? Anyone?

14 Replies to “Gong Xi Fa Cai! Happy Chinese New Year. Keong Hee Huat Chai. Kung Hei Fatt Choy. Selamat Tahun Baru Cina.”

  1. Miss my grandma as she passed away few 6 months ago. Though i’m not close to her but without her sight in the house somehow feel different.

  2. Do give a thought to the POOR family living in abandoned flat in Johore with children age 4 months to 18 years after( her husband left her in the lurch.)
    If any family (in JOHORE) have any spare foods PLEASE PLEASE try and contact the abandoned family and help them ever with( as little) TWO ORANGES.
    Please call Johore Mic Youth @012-7622710.

  3. Thank you for your post, it is very touching, and I agree that the core of CNY and most celebrations, is the reunion of the family. CNY reunions are always looked back with fondest memories.

    But CNY this year will be just another day for me, my sis and her hubby as we are in OZ. So slack lah! No celebration here as we go on rushing for assignments and work. So we can only read your blogs and drool over your pics of Yee Sang and steamboat. :p So we look forward to next year’s CNY when our parents and my 1/2 comes over to celebrate together. Now that’s what I call a real CNY celebration! 🙂

    Happy Chinese New Year of the Piggie to you and your family, and may you have a safe and pleasant trip to KL and back.

  4. Happy Chinese Oink Oink New Year to you and your family, auntie!!!

    May God showers his blessings upon you and your family during this auspicious season and throughout the year

  5. Here’s wishing you a prosperous new year. Keep up the good work! Ah yes, I’m one of those sliding ghosts 🙂

  6. i will be in Penang on 3rd day, in time to makan your food or not 🙂 gonna be free around 1600+ i think… perhaps a nice makan/tea is possible. can call your ceti… must thank him little for the transfer 🙂

    blessed happy chinese new year and God bless you and your whole family.

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