Yvy who is going to have her first baby really, really soon asked me how a new mom manages. She wants to know about the routine we maintain when we have kids.
Well, Yvy, you can forget about the word routine once kecik is here. I tell you, this is one of the most precious parenting advice, not found in any parenting book. You basically live for kecik and have to put away all your needs. Sometimes, we do not even have time to poo-poo. However, you must make time for that because constipation with episiotomy is like giving birth all over again.
Other than that, the only time you can have ‘me’ time is when:
1) You drop the baby to someone else;
2) They have their girlfriends;
Oh ya, forget about sex as well because kid is going to cry somewhere in the middle of action. Plus you no longer get to eat your meals at regular hours. Sometimes, a quick dash to the kitchen to flush some hot water onto oats is all the time we can afford.
Did I also tell you that when you need to poo, you don’t get to close the door because your baby probably needs to hear your voice. So you need to learn to poo in two pushes. You cannot even count the time, just two big push, clean and that’s it.
(this little monkey here was less than 2 years old. He threw my house keys out of the window and caused me to get locked inside the house)
Of course, you no longer get to shampoo your hair, scrub your body, enjoy a long bath or shower. So long as you get rid of the grime, vomit, poo (baby’s ones, not yours lol), urine and later on, spitted mash carrots, then you are good to go. Yes, we sometimes bath and had to sing lullaby at the same time. Meaning with the shampoo running into the eyes, you have to shout loud enough to tell baby that you are around so he won’t scream.
So, if you ask me if I have routine, I will tell you – Forget it. Just jump in and go with the flow. Let your kid decides and it will be much easier to deal with. So, Yvy, enjoy whatever me-time you have no ‘cos it will be a long time before you get to do that.
I am sure the rest of the moms here are going to tell you the same thing.
And the dads-to-be (WOI! you reading ah?), you guys have it much easier than us mommies.
Anyway, things get easier and it is fun, really.