I was at the hospital, through everything. So, there was this moment when I was there alone and the undertaker came. Therefore, we had a chat first. I knew him for many years already as he handled my MIL and my son’s funeral. At first, he doesn’t recognise me. Not surprising.
So, I asked him,
Eh, remember me? Last time my baby died? And then, you told us his spirit disturbed the woman taoist nun (nee kor) who handled the prayer? Remember? She used her own car, the Kembara to drive the coffin from the Jalan Batu Gantong funeral wake place to the cremation at the Race Course?
Ah Chuan : Yayaya, wuah…..that one? Yes, I remember!
Me : Yayaya, tell me about it! What actually happened? (I only knew thru my hubby that the nun asked for my son’s time of birth because they wanted to do some ceremony. I wasn’t a Christian yet at that time, and my son followed the taoist funeral rites)
Ah Chuan : Haiyorrrr….your son very naughty lor. She had to sell her Kembara. You know why? We arranged 5-6 monks to pray. (to please my son’s spirit. His ashes was scattered at Gurney Drive) They even went to the beach and do a ceremony. First she did it, after cannot, she had to call the monks.
Me : Ehehehe, that’s why I turn to Christianity. I cannot afford to believe it. Or else, I am forever tied to praying to my son.
Ah Chuan : You know what happened? She can sense something disturbed her. And then, her brake failed for no reason. On top of that, the honk will sound on its own. And the lights turned on by itself.
Me : Yayaya, something like that happened at home too. But only my computer played a song on its own. (A few things have happened on death anniversaries and I did write them down somewhere.)
Ah Chuan : I told her to sell off her Kembara. I already warned her earlier, don’t ferry the coffin because children and babies’ spirit are rather naughty. He must have liked that car.
Me : Hahahaha, boh pien, when I knew about it, that’s why I have to turned to Christianity. Otherwise, very torturing lah….
And then, guess what? Ah Chuan showed me a cross with his fingers. I went, huh? You?
He told me he also turned to Christianity already. Praise be to God. OMG, of all people, he can turn to Christ! How funny is that? Here is a man who is specialised in every kind of funeral rites and he believed in Christ. Hallelujah!
So, later on, my hubby came back with his sister and her son. (they went to bring their things down to the car)
I told hubby, “Eh, dear, Ah Chuan said Vincent disturbed the taoist nun until she had to sell off her car.” Bwahahaha…we found it so funny. We do not exactly disbelieve and we also do not exactly believe that it is indeed our son’s spirit. I have surrendered him to the Lord and nothing can change my mind about it. But knowing the real story from Ah Chuan is indeed comforting.
Then, I told hubby, “Oi, Ah Chuan also turned to Christianity already.”
Hubby : HOI! You Christian liao, still can teach people to pray-pray ah?
Ah Chuan : No problem wan……It is just my job.
Amen!
And then, earlier today, I was there with the family. There was one point, when we knew his heart and breathing were failing. Resp was only 6-8, heart about 60, BP like 60/40…
I am indeed one of a kind. I jumped into SWAT mode. I asked the son and wife to keep calling him and stroke him while I was there at the feet with my hubby. “Come on, don’t give up, breathe, breathe” We massaged and tickled his feet.
His stats picked up again for several minutes. Then, it dipped.
Then, they called all the other doctors, 4 of them to do CPR. The chief doctor (from somewhere) phoned one of the doctor. Before that, I asked if the patient can be put on artificial life support for two more days but the chief doc does not approve. So, I had done all I can. Really everything.
Because back home, the extended family suggested a Buddhist rite while the bereaved family was too confused. So, I ‘solved’ it for them. I told the bereaved members to follow Taoist rites because it will give them more ‘physical’ things to do. Taoist rites are very elaborate. Moreover, the deceased wife had been following Taoist rites for my in-laws and I know she will feel ‘incomplete’ with the simplicity of a Buddhist rite. Now, I probably am the most unpopular weirdo but who cares lah…What’s important is what the son agreed on. I know they will have a better peace of mind being able to ‘do things’ these few days. And I comforted them that it doesn’t matter what rites they give because the father is in a better place already.
Well…..it has been a tiring day. Thanks for all your wishes. God bless his soul and gives strength to the family.
(P/S : When a person is turning to Christianity, many things and obstacles will come their way. I see all those disturbances as things to prevent me from believing Christ. I was like at a crossroad then.)
God bless his soul and God bless you and your family.
Now I’m off to read the other post to kaypoh a bit.
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hokie. i’m back. thanks for reminding me about miracles. i tend to forget them. i shall have renewed faith (try) that He is really out there looking out for me (us). and yes, i have had miracles happening to me too. *wink*
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My condolences to you and your family Lilian.
I think the nun scared herself silly LOL Probably something went wrong with her car’s electrical circuit.
My condolences.You are right abt the rituals keeping mourners occupied.
Btw, did the daughter manage to get her flight back in time?
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Ah Chuan wor???? Hallelujah! 😯
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Terence – am gonna interogate him for stories. U pak guard ah. I busy training under ah chuan
Romantic – exactly my thots
My condolences as well
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My condolences.
I wonder if the nun has also seen the light of the world just like what Ah Chuan experienced? 😉
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Ah Chuan wor????!!!!! X2 😯
My condolence to your family. May his soul will rest in peace
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My condolences. It is spooky alright? Nothing happened when my uncle passed on. I very scared like this one. 🙁
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kadusmama – Thanks
terence – Tiu, you got nothing better to say issit? Real wan, I had been out shopping for coffin since 8 am, become the KPC between Buddhists extended family and the desired Taoist rites of the immediate family and there is even a guy who went into trance there. Damn terror, my day.
pablo – If I get a chance to get hold of him for a while, I am going dig out his conversion story. Anyway, I have put all my Taoist knowledge (or rather the Chinese filial piety culture) to good use. I even encouraged the son to go ahead with the ‘kong teik’ full ceremony with teowchew opera and all that jazz. It will be a good way for the children to deal with the process of guiding the father to his next life.
But the most daring thing I uttered is ‘It doesn’t matter how the rites are carried out as long as it is comforting to the immediately family. All of us will end up in the same place. We Christians believe in resurrection.’ Amen to that.
Robb – Tks 😀
sorry to hear, my condolences…
my condolences… 🙂
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🙁 alamak, came back fr weekend and read that your BIL gone oledi. Ar-ni-keen-eh. Anyhow, condolence hor lilian, will say a prayer for his dearly departed soul.
Condolences. I’m thinking of my ah pa 😥
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Haha. THats a good one. One hand chanting the ritual rites for the dead and one hand believing Christ. Wan sek, no choice lah!
jit oi sun bin….
my condolences. 🙁
at least BIL bo (no) suffer liau.
kembara kee siau? for heaven’s sake, it’s a malaysian pruduct! is this so surprising?
sometimes hor, some ppl assume certain incidences are caused by spirit, bur actual fact hor is his/her sim (heart) got hantu! it’s a fact also, the images of kui often share a resounding similarities with the kui portrayed in movie/comic. i don believe in kui but i also dont have evidence to reject that concept. in fact, i am more likely to believe in alien existence than kui.
going back to your poor BIL, if i were the wife, i will not allow any CPR, what’s the point? wanna crush his ribs ah? also, what’s the point in prolonging his sufferings for 2 more days with artificial life support? so that his dotter can see him in warm flowing blood? yalah yalah…. what i said sound very tok (poisonous), but we must be practical in life. Must think about BIL first. BIL should have been consulted before what he wanted when the heaven’s doors finally swung open for him. Love and caring are to be given and received when one is alive.
u r absolutely korrect abt the rites! also, rich ppl tend to have an extravagant ceremonies and hire more monks or ‘tou see’, does this mean the poorer ppl who can’t afford the same ‘package’ will suffer more in the afterlife?
(ok, i ord use up terence bro’s posting contribution)
my condolences too lilian ahyi !! 🙁
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Thanks for all the wishes hor? Very nice of you guys.
JT – Yahor, before I forget. Two docs went in. Two more senior ones join later, like several minutes later. Overheard, “Why are you bagging when there is no airways?” Bwahaha…I hear that I also know it is gone liao. ABC of CPR also beh hiaw. I should have DIY cos I am expert in bagging. Though they never allowed me to do it but I was so familiar. Ish, what they teach in med U lah? 😕
Eh! So when is Ah Chuan’s conversion post???
Ah Chuan wor???!!! 😯
terence – Niamah lu.
Tiu! Curious mah!!
Ah Chuan wor???!!! 😯
Cibai
Eh….Ah Chuan is Terence punya peng you, kah? 😯
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Pablo – Curious mah. You know lah those Ah Beng/Ah Pek undertakers, damn superstitious one. Converted wor. So I curious lor.
Ah Chuan wor!!! 😯 Bwahahaha!!! Check out his name lah. Sorry, Ah Chuan.
lol, terence is funny. i was laughin whole day (ok, maybe half a day) cos of this!