Kids have feelings too, you know?
Posted on July 8th, 2008 by Lilian • Filed under: Life and rants
Working parents are going to hate me for this post. But don’t care lah.
There is this babysitter who takes care of a five years old boy. The same age as my little boy. The parents are both working and sometimes, they worked outstation as well. Meaning, they may not pick him at night. The boy has an older sister but she goes to another babysitter.
This little boy can really whine and whine and whine all day long. He cries with this shrill voice that resonates all over our apartment units. It is especially worse if the babysitter has a new baby to take care.
Today, I heard him screaming something really kesian. The babysitter is probably busy with the new baby and the bigger boy wanted something. He was crying so pathetic…”When I want time, you do not have time to do for me.”
Aiyor, so kesian. You see, kids attached very closely to their caregivers and when the caregivers have new babies under them, they will feel neglected, unloved and betrayed. Very much like how our older kids feel when they have a new sibling. But you see, if we are parents, we probably get them emotionally prepared for a new sibling. However, babysitters take new babies as and when they come. So, there is no such thing as being emotionally prepared. Then, siblings have blood ties and give the older kids the ‘grown-up’ mighty, good feelings. Meanwhile, if they are other people babies, to the older children, these are little critters that grabbed the attention of their babysitter. So, jealousy, insecurities, loss of sense of belonging and etc will crop up in these kids.
Many kids have problems dealing with these. And working parents may not immediately realise why their kids are so whiney. The parents are also tired from all the work and walau-eh, the kids will get smack for being whiney lor. I bet working parents lost their cool with their kids at some point. But remember, kids have feelings too. Most times, they do not know how to express it except by being difficult and whiney.
Solution? None. I won’t impose my ideal suggestion to any parents because all of us have to work to make ends meet, don’t we?
NOT RELATED : Someone can tell me what this KwongWah paper said about my blog post? I translated with Babelfish already but just want to be sure, they are supporting my post and not using it against my herrow orh? This is freaky! I was just babbling about doormats only and Kwongwah picked it up.