I have friends who are like that and it pains me every time any one of them come to me for counseling sessions. And though I always ask them whether it’s worth it to suffer like that, I never say “Yes, break up with that MFSOAB already!” whenever they go through the potential breakup period. I’d always ask them to think of what they really want, not what I want. Reason #1 is of course I want the best for them, and secondly, I don’t want to be the one being blamed when they regret breaking up.

Hence, I’ll never allow myself to fall into the same situation. If I sense anything fishy, I’d take reasonable (at least what I think is) measurement to void any suspicion. Maybe that’s why I’m still single now. Haha~

In response to Domino‘s questions,
1. If I know a friend/relative is being cheated on and doesn’t know about it, I will try to ask as discreetly as possible how s/he feels about things like this. If s/he prefers knowing, I’ll break the news to her/him in the least damaging manner I can think of. Otherwise, I’ll shut up about it and let her/him decides what s/he’ll do to me after s/he finds out about the affair and me knowing all along.

2. I prefer knowing about my spouse’s affair, and putting an end to the marriage, if necessary. (Father, forgive me to have such thoughts. Like what Lilian said, I’ll debate with St. Peter at the Pearly Gates if that’s what it takes.) Like what mumsgather and Jen mentioned, children, if there are any, will be my first consideration.

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