I am picturing myself as the tai kam poh
Posted on February 14th, 2009 by Lilian • Filed under: Family
I am by marriage, a grandauntie. It was only 20 years later that my eldest sister’s children made me another grandauntie.
My hubby’s eldest nephew is the same age as him because my mom-in-law was still procreating like how God told Sarah to. So, can you imagine my mom-in-law pregnant and her two older daughters also pregnant along with her?
I cannot imagine…really…..
I wonder if they discuss about their pregnancies together, sex life…ok ok, I am not supposed to be disrespectful to my mader-in-law.
Then, my hubby’s nephew got married very early. The nephew and nieces were already procreating when I think my hubby was still a virgin boy. Go figure….
So, one of hubby’s nephew’s daughter is getting married next Saturday. God’s mysterious way has put her in my life. I usually do not meddle with the lives of the in-laws family. But this dear girl actually consulted me when she was battling between with the decision of studying Form Six (parent’s wish) and becoming a nurse (her own wish). I told her to go for her desired career and vocation as a nurse because nursing is a vocation (vocation is a sacred calling from God, as far as we Christians are concerned).
God’s grace has made her happily settled down as a nurse in an operating theatre.
So, she is getting married next weekend but they are not planning to spend a lot of money on all the pomp of a Chinese wedding. Smart girl. Her mom asked me if I can be the tai kam poh. LOL.
I told her I will take care of the tea ceremony, boiling the red dates tea and also the ‘receive bridegroom’ tea. Her family is the rare Christians in our very large extended family. In fact, her family and my family are the only ones.
So, you can imagine the number of aunties, koo mah, koo cheh, yee mah, pat pohs who are highly superstitious. When you are a Christian bride marrying into a non-Christian family, there are sticky situations that must be ironed out early on.
Therefore, I think there is no other people more ‘qualified’ than this grandauntie to be the tai kam poh. After all, I wrote a post about ‘Can a Christian bride hold joss-sticks?’ back in 2005.
So, yeah, the things I got myself into.