Trying to understand of this mystery call woman

I am a woman. And yet, there is something that I can never quite understand. I was thumbing through the papers and there was this section for women. It is some special pull-out for women.

And if we gauge women by the things they advertised in those crappy pullout section, I think we women are nothing but a piece of meat. There are lots and lots of slimming pills, slimming centres, slimming wraps and diet pills. Then, there are hair removal services. Another column talked about tummy fats. One more about hair replacement. Some spa services. Lots of cosmetics. Fashions, shoes, bags…..

It is all about the physical look of a woman. The woman has to be slim, hairless at some parts, hair-full at the head and coloured up with all the ICI paints.

And the scary thing is, there is nothing intellectual for her. All these commercials have reduced women to nothing but an airhead with no legs hair, no armpit hairs, Brazillian wax where it should be and not an ounce of extra fats. No wrinkles, no fine lines yadda yadda yadda…

I personally think it is stupid if one subscribes to these ideal women image dictated by the money hungry enterprises like the slimming centres, hair removal centres, spas, wrinkle removal, etc etc.

I tell you, even if you go to the grave, you will still be worried about your looks. You will be turning in your coffin, wondering if the embalmer has given you the right shade of blusher and lipstick and had comb your hair properly. You wonder if your husband has got the right mahogany tone for the coffin etc etc.

And that’s one thing that I wouldn’t want to end up with. That’s why there are certain days when I totally forget about skincare, dressing up or do anything like that. The rebellious streak gives me a high. I can look into the face of the overly make-up auntie and silently say, ‘Screw you, I love being myself without all the fake facade. So what?’

The peer pressures are definitely there. Mrs. Wong from down the road is sporting a new hairstyle. Mrs. Rajoo is wearing a new imported saree. Puan Rosmah just had a tummy tuck and had her moustache removed. All these of course makes us who don’t prim very, very insecure. It is like, ‘OMG, they look so well pruned. What will people think of me? That my husband cannot afford it? That I am suicidal? That I am uglier than them?’

And I tell you…..if you go to some place with lots of women, you are going to get lots of questions and comments. There will be quizzical looks with questions in their mind like why you look like the maid.

Seriously….I think it is time we women tell the commercials and advertisements to go and die because we certainly do not need that much make-up, slimming and all the exterior decorations. If we don’t do that, soon, our daughters (ahahaha, not that I have any) are going to get their lives screwed with so much peer pressures and competitions.

(Our family bonding way, wear the same coloured t-shirts when we go out. This is the red versus white gang.)

Sigh….I have seen some mothers of teenage girls wearing clothes like their teens with big bows and polka dots and all the ribbons. Cute shoes and tiny cute handbags. Arrggh…nightmare, I tell you. Thank GOD I don’t give birth to four girls or I will probably be too busy primping along with them. Imagine how much I would missed out on life then?

13 thoughts on “Trying to understand of this mystery call woman

  1. Lilian, you must be referring to yesterday’s Star pullout(Women’s World).

    OMG is our (women’s)world only made up of all the priming and trimming? An alien for afar would think so if he happened to read this pullout.We would be seen as being shallow and vain.

    One advertisement had this woman whose testimony went like this … ‘My brand new bra strap broke after I used this product’. No prize for guessing what the product was all about.

    Sample of article titles … ‘ Eat and not put on extra weight’,’How to reduce tummy flab’,’Perfect eyelashes in 5 days’,’Look slimmer and trimmer within minutes’,’Look younger in 2 weeks’..etc.etc…..

    These just goes to lower our self-esteem, if we allow it!I want to look nice too, but will not submit to someone else’s standard of looking nice.BTW who came up with those ‘standards’? Weigh a certain amount? Skin spotless, wrinkleless? Flat tummy? Hair a certain color?

    So I shall adhere to my own standards.As long as I am comfortable in my skin, dress my way, stay healthy, stay informed and in-touch with the world,I believe I am ok!

    So if you happened to see me all dressed up, even if there’s no occasion to. Or if you see me looking like ‘lau ee’, well ….. it’s just me, me, me! Same old me in different packaging.

    PS: To all the men out here…. do honestly tell us what you want to see in a woman.Since it’s the physical that you first notice in a female, let’s not go into the brainy part yet. OK? Actually all the hoo-ha regarding how a woman should look, underestimate/insulting the mens’ intelligence,too.

  2. Oh no! There’s another similar pull-out in today’s Star entiled ‘Body, Mind and Soul’!

    Come on Star, be fair… let’s see some articles for the men as well! It could not be that only women need ‘help’? Or is it that the men just need a big bank account? Like they say, ‘The bigger the bank account, the more interest it generates!

  3. “ is time we women tell the commercials and advertisements TO GO AND DIE because we certainly do not need that much make-up, slimming and all the exterior decorations…”


  4. honestly i think girls with light make up are still acceptable. But girls nowadays like putting make up like a butterfly which then turn out to negative effects for the guys. Natural beauty is still what men prefer. Hehe.

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  5. I have never shaved my legs. My stash of makeup is at least 10 years old because I don’t bother to buy new ones or use any unless I have some fancy dinner to go to. My clothes are all cheap and comfortable. Who cares about fashion? And I am proud to be FAT because it means I can eat whatever I want and not worry about getting fat because I am already fat.

    but then, that’s how those slimming centers, beauty centres, etc, make money mah…they play on the insecurities that some women felt and become rich from them. Hmmm…that’s a good plan. Maybe I should start a beauty centre and I’ll become RICH. Wahahahahaha…


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  6. Wah, you say like that I chiak lat oledi! I have a 8yr old girl, so can imagine when the time comes…….
    No lah, I shall “brain wash” her now slowly so that she that think like those commercials and ads…..

  7. hahahah eh thanks for today’s post..that’s what ive been thinking about all along too! nowadays u walk to gurney or where, u see mothers wearing to the nines and u wonder if they got time for the kids. what’s the purpose of wearing makeup too much/dressing up in designer clothes (that u can barely afford)…can they keep up with the pace forever? as long as nails are kept clean, hair brushed properly, face washed daily, badan not fat , eyebrows trimmed..should be enough.

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