I think all those Malaysians whom had migrated are a pain-in-the-arse

Recently, there are lots of stories from those Malaysians whom had migrated overseas. And there are equally many who didn’t migrate and wrote in to online news site why they stay in Malaysia.

Let me tell you lah, I find those who had moved overseas such a pain in the arse. You know why? Cos they are a bloody bunch of people whom had abandoned ship and then, try to talk patriotic why they had to do it. As if someone held a gun to their head and kick them out.

Please la…if you have moved out, just get out and shut up. Don’t talk like our country is such a dumps. It is not. It is still a lovely country. You moved because of your selfish reasons. Enuff said.

Firstly, when a person or a family moved out, they are bound to leave their aged parents behind. Many filial sons won’t do that. Never in our minds, i.e. my husband or my mind would think of leaving our aged mothers to move to greener pastures. It is just wrong. Don’t fool yourself with ‘never mind, my mother will fly to Canada for a few months in a year to enjoy the weather’. You are just escaping…

Next, you have to be blardy rich or blardy educated (in most case, it is because you are blardy rich) to be able to do that. You think all those gwailoes will want you to squat in their countries if you are not skilled or have tonnes of money to invest? So, don’t talk like every single Malaysians can opt to migrate and make the rest of us who stayed back like we are fools for not abandoning ship.

Then, there are those who think ‘ang moh sai eh ciak’ (english shits is edible, i.e. a sense of idolising caucasians) and kept praising how good England is, how good Australia is etc etc. Please lah, our politicians are shits but so are all politicians in the world. Just because you idolise them, you are blinded to their imperfections.

Another group is the parents who migrated for the ‘future of their children’. We did think of doing that at one stage in our lives. We were keen on seeing all our children having better education in Australia. But what held us back is whether it is fair to uproot our grown children from their familiar environment here for the sake of education? What about their friends and the sense of belonging here? We didn’t want to end up with rebellious teens who have problem adjusting. What good is good education when the children aren’t happy in a new country?

Like to admit or not, if we are in foreign land, we are second-class. We are Asians. Asians don’t have very good image there. Asian porn is like second class porn. Asians are sometimes mistook for being terrorists. Asians are those noisy Chinamen portrayed in kungfu movies. So, get real…fool yourself but there is no place like home here in Malaysia.

You can whine and whine about how discrimination exists here in our country if your skin colour is too pale or too dark. But look at yourself, aren’t you capable of working harder for a better life? Our ancestors from China and India did that, so why can’t we when we have better opportunities than them?

You think it is smart to abandon ship and when you are away in a foreign country, you curse the PM, curse the Tun M, curse the exam SPM and a 100 other M you can find just to justify why you abandon ship. But…we know, you did it because for selfish reasons. Nicer weather, higher standard of living, far away from the in-laws, lesser haram-halal restrictions etc etc…But the fact is, you left your country which you could have contributed your expertise to. You want a way out for your selfish needs.

So, stop all those letter like ‘oh I am so poor, my country treats me badly, so I have no choice but to leave’. Go play far-far and stop complaining now that you are out. We will stay here and make the best of what we have and work harder to make it even better. Sekian, terima kasih.

24 thoughts on “I think all those Malaysians whom had migrated are a pain-in-the-arse

  1. wow… I know a friend that migrate to OZ and the old mother has no choice but to fly to OZ for 6 months and then fly to the daughter’s place at NZ for another 6 months. The house back in Msia was sold and she has no place back home anymore. I wonder how long she can fly like that. She is 70+ years old already. She cannot get her OZ PR due to the only one son in OZ but two daughters in NZ.

  2. So, following your logic, it was a terrible thing that your ancestors migrated from China then? And if you’re Indian, it’s deplorable that your forebears decided to come to Malaysia? Or if you’re Malay that it was wrong for your ancestors to migrate here from Yunan or wherever? I suggest that your views have validity but they are at best only a partial view of the truth. The universe is ever dynamic but is always in harmony. Peace and love!

  3. I am holding a PR and living in London at the moment. Not-highly skills, but happened to be here on the workholidaymaker scheme in 2005. No plan to leave home, but just finding it fortunate to be having the freedom to stay on and enjoy bits of this world. What you said about our parents is so true. Especially when you parents don’t speak a word of English and enjoy a holiday in China more than an oblige visit to me just because they care. This is what holding me back of starting a family with my hubby. No way I will ever allow my mom to come to a foreign land to tend to my need and not enjoying what is due to her.

  4. Dear Lilian,

    You seem to be a very frustrated person. I can empathise with you that show-offs are annoying and they annoy me too but then again, who are we to judge others.

    While I do agree that many of those who abandoned ship are rich and snobbish but there are many whom we may never know the real reason. I’ve my second home abroad not because I want to earn more but because I happened to marry a foreigner. I’m still a Malaysian and I do not plan to give up my citizenship but I was let down (many times) by the country that I love.

    One particular incident more than 7 years back made me wishing to relinquish my citizenship but after a period of “recovery”, I did not do so.

    I once thought I lost my passport while I was holidaying in Italy and I immediately called the Malaysian Embassy in Berlin (as I reside in Germany), the Malaysian Embassy in Rome and the High Comm in London (as they are the only representative in Europe to issue passport) to report about the lost. All the time, I spoke fluent Malay to them.

    None of them were helpful, one greeted me with “You CINA ke”, the other one said “There’s nothing I can do” and one more reprimanded me for losing it, scolded me for being unpatriotic and told me right in the face that “I did not deserve to be a Malaysian”.

    Mind you, I was alone and I was pregnant and I couldn’t held back my tears. He just sent me off.

    Finally, my husband contacted the German authorities and they said, “Don’t worry, just come back to Germany, we’ll try our best to help you. You are our resident”.

    What more can I say?

  5. Dear Auntie Lillian,

    I am a keen follower of your blog and had been remained a silent reader for long time until this post you posted. I have to tell you my side of story because I feel unjustified that you lump all Malaysians based overseas like that. Although it is true like what Chermayne said on the snobbish Malaysians whom leaved the country, I can share with you that majority of the Malaysians I know here are not like that.

    Malaysia is one of the few country which does not allow duo citizenship. Why is that? Why is the government forcing us to decide when they know very clear we Malaysians have family and friends back home and have no choice but to reside overseas because of foreign spouse or children? You can argue, why not stay in Malaysia then. Well, if my husband is assured a work permit and resident permit on equal basis and not as `suka suka` you know what I mean? I got mine the day after we registered our marriage, no question asked at all. How often have you heard of stories that someone-someone used $$$ to buy a permit? My husband is a German so he will not go down to that level or condone corruption. And I am stuck here because I would ideally want to be base in Malaysia. So Auntie Lililan, do you understand why Malaysian in foreign land are so sour? That aside, Auntie Lillian .. you have to come and stay here for awhile to really understand that indeed, the standard of living here is different. The people are in general well mannered and you don´t see politicians asking us to balik kampung. It hurts when this is said.

  6. Auntie Lilian, dont get so worked up. Each person has different values in life. Just like a man might prefer a non-working wife and sacrifice on the material things but have the wife attend to the kids imparting their values whilst the children are young instead of passing the responsibility to some foreign maids who speak bahasa and english with an accent. Each person has their very own reason for doing things. You have yours and I bet others who have left have theirs. Its fair. No one can say, who is right or wrong. As long as you think you are happy, then, go ahead.

    Just my two cents worth of opinion.

  7. I agree with Lianne and Chermayne. I have also been a silent reader until now. My parents migrated to AUS when I was 17. My wish was to further my education overseas and because my parents couldn’t afford to send both myself and my younger brother as overseas students they decided to migrate and luckily they were successful. That was 21 years ago. We were not rich and when we came here we had to ‘stinge’. No going out to eat often like the way we did back in Malaysia, no country club etc. But now after 21 years, we are very comfortable. Why? Because we worked hard and we got out education in the field we wanted which we probably would not have the chance to if we were still back in Malaysia trying to get into the universities there.

    There are racism everywhere, regardless of whether you live in a western country or in Malaysia. Are the chinese not looked at as second class citizens in Malaysia? I remember when I was still in Malaysia back in the 80s the bumiputras were given scholarships and subsidies and special schools that the Chinese and the Indians were not allowed into. During exams, you have to write on your test papers whether you are Chinese, Malay or Indian. To me that is racism. Why do they need to know what race the student is other than making sure the Malays are graded differently to the non Malays? You would never find anything like that in Australia.

    I no longer call Malaysia home. I have been in Australia longer than I have been in Malaysia so my home is now Australia.

    The only thing I miss about Malaysia is the food, not the country.

  8. “I think all those Malaysians WHO have migrated are painS-in-the-butt”
    I do miss Malaysia and unfortunately I cannot make a living there and hence have settled in a different country. Sad, isn’t it? I was challenged by immigration at Subang the 1st time I returned for a much-anticipated holiday: “Why u not stay in Malaysia?”. Looked him in the eye, told him exactly that…I cannot find work in Msia. Promptly shut him up.
    Racism and discrimination will always exist but it is how we deal with it that matters. Does the government openly practise discrimination? Is there a Human Rights Commission to look after its citiizens? Is equality written into the constitution? Is there equal education opportunities for the citizens? Is it illegal to ask someone their creed, colour, religion, sexual preference, heritage in an interview? In my country it is.
    My country will also never leave any of its citizens behind….remember the crisis in Lebanon several years ago? The recent crisis in Libya? The Japan earthquake disaster? My country went to help bring its citizens back.
    Whatever country one prefers, ask this self-test question: “If I had to be thrown in jail for whatever reason, which country would I pick?” Malaysia? A resounding NO! China? Heck no! Canada? YES!! The true north strong and FREE!!!

  9. Hi there…

    referring to your blog post above, when you say we migrate is because it’s for a selfish reason. Well, in that case, our ancestors migrate to malaysia because of selfish reasons too. Let me tell you something. Those who refuse change are those who will never advanced in life. so, i feel that migrating is one of those changes in life that some of us might embrace. but lumping those who migrate and call them as selfish are a little unfair to those who never spoke a single word from abroad. you might want to choose a better word next time. as what my general writing lecturer told her class… ” writing is an unforgiving task. Because everything is lodge in black and white and everyone can just read and hold you responsible for what you have written” but in this case, there’s nothing to be held responsible. just want to let you know that it’s unfair

    And you say that we are second class overseas. Do you know that we are even regarded as a second class citizen even in our own country ? there’s someone who said this out loud in national television and no action is taken against that guy. so by theory, with us moving there, although we are still known as a second class citizen, at least we will be treated as a better second class citizen.

    you also said that “they “you left your country which you could have contributed your expertise to.” you know, if i were to offer you a job with a better pay than your current job in malaysia (assuming you have one), i think you would also move to my company. i believe the same concept applies here too. don’t blame them for accepting a better offer.

    From ipoh with love,
    A government university student.

    P.S. : hope you read the comments. it helps you improve our writing.

  10. I am a migrant and I have to disagree with you on a few points.
    1. I love Malaysia. It is not a dump. Well, at least not yet. What puts me off is the traffic (how often do you encounter rude/bad drivers?), security (how many people do you know who got their handbags snatched, car broken into or even got robbed?), politics and controlled media.
    2. I miss my family dearly and wish they would come along with us to experience greener pastures here. We are not abandoning them but trying to bring them over slowly.
    3. I am not rich. Got my degree locally with my parents hard earned money and loan!
    4. Migrated for the future of the kids. This one is definitely me. My dad is a teacher and he told us to migrate for the sake of our kids as he sees no future in the education system back home. It’s not uprooting them but to “re-root” them into a new environment. Also, higher education cost a bomb in Malaysia. Being a mother of 4, I’m sure you got it all calculated!
    5. Being Chinese, we’re 2nd class everywhere. Except China maybe? However, in OZ, 2nd class is also treated fairly. We get a fair bit of our share for baby bonus, first home grant owner and many more! Mind you, I have not even paid tax to the government here and I’ve already gotten so much in return. I’ve paid tax for over 10 years in Malaysia and got nothing back.
    I can still remember when my sister migrated and my exact words to her was ‘I will never migrate! I am so comfortable here’. After having kids, I think differently. Our folks also told us to migrate for the sake of our kids. Do not be selfish!
    My husband and I definitely struggled with migration. Back home we have family, good friends, good working network, house cleaner, gardener etc. Coming here, we have to start all over again, from a landlord to a tenant, from having the luxury of having ‘me’ time to doing everything on our own at home and from having good company/friends for good food outside to saving money and eating home. The worse is zero support from relatives and friends coz we do not know anyone. It’s really starting all over again from scratch. It certainly is a sacrifice. Life is tough but it’s for the better. My kids can go to the park freely, I do not worry about being in the streets alone of forgetting to lock my car door etc.
    A question that I would like to ask you. What if one fine day, one of your boys decided to migrate for greener pastures. Would you call him ‘abandon ship’ or the prodigal son? Or would you just be supportive?

    – A migrant who would never thought she would migrate

  11. Migrant, well said and welcome to OZ!! My family was in a similar situation when we first migrated 20 years ago. We struggled and from having maids and gardeners to having to do everything ourselves was tough. But things do get better and thanks to my parents my brother and I got the education we wanted. Now we are very comfortable and no longer have to struggle 🙂 it does take time as like what you said “we have to start all over again” but the benefits outweigh the initial struggle.

  12. To each it’s own. It takes all sort of people to make the world goes round. I think nobody should judge the the decision of other. My parents lives in oversea most of the time. not because they want to, but it’s because they have to. My father is stationed in Korea… and not a single day passed by that he’s not full of praise of Malaysia.
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  13. Kaz,
    1. To identify Chinese, malay and indian in exam paper so that Malay’s exam papers graded differently. What kind of baseless conspiracy theory are you referring to? Cakap tangkap muat. Duhhh
    2. 21 years of hardwork and now you live comfortably in OZ. You are kidding right? You know where you will be at in Malaysia by now if you actually work hard? Do you know THP, AK, TF? Acronyms for non Malays who are the richest men in Malaysia in banking, telco and airline industry? Shesshh again, get your facts right.
    3. Also, do you know who holds the bulk of Malaysia’s wealth? In case you acrually read factual economic bulletins, you would think it is the race who got the special treatment in exam markings.
    4. Not being able to get the kind of education that you wanted? Aiyooo this one I cannot even stomach. Affordable private unis are abundant if you dont like the choices given by public unis. You can study whatever you would
    Like to.Throngs of foreign students (i’m talking about the legitimate ones) flock to malaysia. Oh yeah, please tell the Aborigines’ ‘snatched babies’ about how f fair is the education system there – see how would they react to that.
    5. I have plenty of friends and families who migrated to OZ. I know what the qualifying criteria are like. Lilian is not telling any single lie here unless you fall under the asylum category.

    No, I do not think all those that migrated away are pain in the arse. But those yakking away incessantly needs to be nipped in the bud.

    No, I do not think

  14. Sorry – bloopers: item 3 – In case is actually unless.

  15. Chermayne (nice name by the way), Malaysia’s embassies are full of crappy ppl. I totally agree with that. Not just because you are CINA. They do not practise racism in terms of giving bad services, they are simply lousy! My own incident happened when I was 18 traveling to Singapore with a friend, oyr passports were in our luggage in the cab’s boot. Before we finished unloading the cab sped off with some of our luggage with the passports.
    Fortunately (or so we thought) we have another friend staying with an uncle who actually works as the seniorofficer in Malaysia’a embassy in Singapore. We called him up and asked for his uncle’s help. Let me remind you again that I am a Malay and my friend was a tudung-clad Malay too. What was the response from Msia’s embassy ‘Pegilah report police. We all boleh buat apa pun.’
    WTF. didnt even ask the clueless 18 year olds whether
    do we have money, do we have lodging. What are our plans. Btw, the senior officer is not a malay nor an indian but cina. Did i scream racism? Emm maybe I should.

    Also I totally agree that foreign spouses who are skilled need to be allowed to work and obtain PR here. But do check again with the current policies now, the ban was already lifted and u can easily get valid work permit and PR now. But i totally understand if u prefer to stay in germany. Autobahn is better thN PLUS and bundes liga players are much hotter than malaysia’s league’s. Maybe you should admit to that first.

  16. Dear Malay married to a Chinese and still practising hard to use chopstix,

    My, being in the privileged class of “Son of the Soil” and from your cocooned vantage position you truly think that those who migrated have no basis to complain whatsoever.

    You truly think that the non Malays in Malaysia have it easy. If you care to open your eyes a bit you may actually be surprised to discover the myriad of obstacles that have been thrown their way all their lives.

    After 50+ years of discriminatory policies, how long more should it go on.

    Have you heard of the word meritocracy? Fair go !!!

    Keep practicing on the chopstick, you may actually succeed one day.

  17. Hahaha….loved your rant here; and the rant of your readers. I’m new here and would be visiting often to learn more about you.

    I personally have nothing much to say about this topic except to agree with you that all politicians are the same whether they are black, white, yellow or red. But, I did think of imigrating – never gonna happen anyway.
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  18. Malay married to a Chinese – do tell me what the reason is for a student having to put down their race on an exam paper? Any requirement for a person to put their race down on paper regardless of whether its on an exam paper or interview etc is RACISM.

    The ‘snatched babies’ as you call them happened many years ago. Things have changed since then. In fact if you think you know so much about Australia then you would know the govt benefits the Aboriginals get these days compared to non-aboriginals.

    Malay married to Chinese, you sound very bitter. Maybe secretly you wish you were one of your friends who have migrated as well….

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